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October 7, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Emotions

Mom stares, emotionless, as I tell her about going back to the trailer. But I can tell. There are thoughts back there behind her eyes. Stoic as always, she just won’t express them. Or, perhaps they are too vague to explain. I ask but get no answer. I shouldn’t have mentioned it this far from […]

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October 2, 2017

Elderly Mothers and What the Heck?

“Enjoyed having your mother back in church yesterday.” What? Mom hasn’t been to church in months. I‘m gone for five days, leaving Mom in my sister’s care and suddenly Mom is up and about, perfectly lucid and is off for church. Suddenly, knows she used to go to church, knows where her church is (which […]

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September 28, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Bed Heads

Have you ever looked at the back of someone’s head when they have been sitting in a recliner for any length of time? A little like grass that a dog has circled in several times before lying down. Hair splayed out every which way. It is a condition in which Mom finds herself all the […]

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September 26, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Finances

How can people afford to stay at a high-priced Residential Facility? Lady D makes pretty bead jewelry and sells it to other residents at their annual fair. Lady M, Mom’s neighbor across the hall, paints pictures to sell. Others feel fortunate to have families that are willing to help with payments. Still others, a very […]

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September 21, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Loneliness # 2

The halls are empty. I wonder if that is what makes the residents at Mom’s retirement home feel lonely. No one to talk to. No one to listen to. Each resident closeted in their rooms. I made the mistaken assumption that all of the elderly are lonely. Turns out it is true for some, not […]

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September 16, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Smiles

“Why don’t you smile?” I never intended it as a reprimand. I had asked the question of one of the young women who wait tables and serve the residents at Mom’s Residential Facility. The girl was looking particularly unsmiling as she set plates of breakfast down in front of the residents in the dining room. […]

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September 13, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Visiting Dignitaries

Who knew French Panorama Wallpaper would make a connection? During the early decades of the 1900s, the wallpaper business had grown into a highly lucrative and profit-making endeavor. Since the time of the Egyptians, walls have been covered in wallpaper to decorate rooms. For centuries, however, only the wealthy could afford the flocked and ornate […]

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September 12, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Determination

Lady B is back, and more determined than ever. Elegantly coiffed, beautifully attired, matching jewelry, nails perfectly manicured. Has it been more than a month? She’s been gone six weeks in rehab for her hip surgery at nearby #CreekSide Retirement Community. Of course, she had expected to be back and walking within the week of […]

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September 6, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Family Reunions

It would confuse a dedicated genealogist. Two sons. Two daughters. Four spouses. Two grandsons. Each with a spouse. Three great grandsons in their teens. Another grandson and wife on Skype with another grandson on the way. All the hubbub swirling around Mom left her bewildered and confused, but happy, as she sat in the activity […]

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August 25, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Use it or Lose it

Steve, the second good-looking Physical Therapist from STAT Home Health Care came back yesterday. Since it was Nathan who tested Mom’s abilities last week, Mom had to go through the same lifting and pushing exercises again to show where she is in terms of flexibility. Again, thanks to her desire to impress the fine-looking therapist, […]

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